With the advent of the iPhone, T-Mobile’s “myFaves” sadly got overlooked. The gist is this: T-Mobile users can select ANY 5 people, regardless of network, and talk for free. It’s Genius. Mostly because, if you’re still with T-Mobile, everyone you know is with some other provider.
So, who’s your “myFaves?”
We live in a world of 6 billion people. In spite of everything, the population is growing. And in the Western world, we now have access (thank you, iPhone) to minute-by-minute information, not only on our friends (facebook) but on ANYTHING.
So, in a world of more people with more resources to get and stay connected, do we have a tendency to feel just the opposite?
I don’t know your answer to that question, but I know there are times even amidst a crowd of people that my answer is yes. There is a hunger in humanity–no matter how introverted or anti-social we feel at times– to be truly known. It’s what we’re created for.
John 17:3 says it this way, “This is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.” There’s a tendency to stop here adopting the “all we need is God” viewpoint; except, back in the garden of Eden, we have a front row seat to the only relationship (apart from Jesus) where God was truly known by a man. It is here God says, “It is not good for man to be alone.”
I could go off on a huge tangent about marriage, but I’ll save that for another day. For now, all I’m highlighting is that in the midst of a pure, whole, and sinless relationship with God, it still wasn’t good for man(kind) to be alone.
God created us for community.
I think most of us recognize our need for community, and we have access to it through the hundreds of facebook friends we display on our walls; only, are we experiencing it? For me, this isn’t my first day asking that question. It’s becoming a theme I have to go back to over and over because community, although a gift, isn’t just something you get. It’s also something you give.
Look at the life of Jesus. If we use Him as a model (which I think is a pretty good idea since, to date, He’s influenced more people than any other person or thing throughout history), then we have to make some culturally difficult decisions regarding community.
Jesus calls 12 men to follow Him, daily. And He takes these 12 with Him, everywhere. At times, thousands gather around Jesus; but it seems His “community” is much smaller. 72 are sent out in Luke 10, and 120 are gathered in Acts 1, but it’s the 12 who are with Him always. Out of those 12, 3 are invited into more (Matthew 17). Peter, James, and John are part of the inner circle, and the first of the 12 to realize who Jesus really is.
Look at your life. Chances are, you’re acquainted with hundreds, and on a regular basis you connect with 50-ish friends. But, who’s your 12, or your 3? I’m not sure the exact number is the point, but the principle is life-changing, and life-giving. Who’s “living life” with you daily? Who really knows you? Knows everything? What’s more, do you know them that way too?
We need these relationships. Without them, we’ll work to meet our need in every relationship, but there are a couple concerns with this sort of paradigm.
It would be awful if we took this idea and became a bunch of “clicks.” I’m just as disgusted with that sort of community as anyone else. Leaving people out, not being available, or isolation are all terrible expressions of Life in the Kingdom. If we choose to live like Jesus, we will love ALL people, not just those we get along with. Jesus interacted, influenced, approached, invested in, poured into, was friends with (this could go on for a while) multitudes, BUT he always had the 12 and the 3. If nothing else, shouldn’t we start there too? If we really keep Jesus as our model, I think He’ll keep us from playing favorites.